Let me start off with I'm a small guy at 5'5 120 pounds. I tried my friends shotgun years ago, 12g, felt quite heavy, I don't remember the make. He showed me the proper way to brace it, and it wore the hell out of my shoulder. It's the only time I felt sore the next day after shooting. Some years have passed and I've gotten much more experience shooting, but haven't tried a shotgun since. I'd like to get a shotgun for home defense, and wonder if the 20 gauge would be comparable for that purpose. I also wonder if there are shotguns that have less kick based on their design and weight. As it stands my current go to for home defense would be a .357 revolver. Any thoughts or suggestions are welcomed.